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What if the way you see yourself is influencing everything around you?
Trading Mirrors is a new book by Deborah DiMiceli, author, speaker, and founder of Esteem Academy. It's about the inner image we carry, how it shapes every relationship and decision, and how trading that mirror changes everything.
Publishing July 2026
West Coast Tour: July 28 – September 14
Join the journey and get a free practice from the book
About the Book
Our self-image is often built on lies and limitation.
A parent's comparison. A teacher's dismissal. A partner who made you feel too much and not enough at the same time. You believed them because you never knew you could question the reflection.
Trading Mirrors is Deborah DiMiceli's unflinching examination of how those images form, why they stick, and what it takes to build a reflection that loves you back. Rooted in love for her sister Lisa who never saw her true reflection and woven with neuroscience, quantum physics, and spiritual truth, it reads like a deep conversation with a trusted friend.
The journey unfolds in four S.E.E.D. Seasons: See the mirror you're holding. Examine how it was built. Elevate from surviving to thriving. Design the life you were always meant to step into.
This is not a book you read once and shelve. It’s a companion for life.
Trading Mirrors is about finding your way back to your true reflection. It helps you uncover what's beneath what you see and leads you on a journey to examine and elevate your perspective through practices grounded in multiple scientific disciplines, and rooted in kindness.
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West Coast Tour
July 28 - September 14, 2026
This summer Deborah is bringing Trading Mirrors and the experiences built around it to communities across five states:
California · Oregon · Washington · Idaho · Nevada
She's leading workshops, collective art experiences, and interactive assemblies at local libraries, bookstores, YMCAs, Boys & Girls Clubs, community centers, schools, companies, and service organizations.
If you'd like to host an event, reach out for available dates.
What Deborah Brings
Deborah DiMiceli has spent years building practical, science-backed programs that help people uncover who they truly are. She's building communities where authentic versions of people thrive. Her work bridges neuroscience and human connection, incorporating the biology of kindness, self-perception, and the way one person's inner clarity ripples outward into every relationship and experience they have.
She'd love to teach her findings and practices to your organization and its members.
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Keynote
You Are Made to Stand Out: The Variance Principle
TEDx Clarkstown September 18, 2026
15-minute TEDx · 60-minute Keynote
A science-backed, story-driven talk about why our distinctiveness is our greatest asset. It covers what becomes possible when we stop comparing ourselves and start living our desired lives. It's grounded in research on self-perception, monoculture, and the neuroscience of identity.
Trading Mirrors Workshop
Uncover Your True Identity
30 people max · 60–90 minutes
A guided experience that helps participants uncover who they truly are beneath the stories they've been told. Download the workshop overview.
Includes a workbook with exercises, immersive experiences, and collective art created by participants. An intimate, transformative experience that pairs well with a book signing.
Kindness Culture Workshop
Build Community Through Kindness
60 minutes · Groups of any size
Download the Kindness Culture Program Overview
Covers emotional regulation, empathy, healthy communication, and compassion to build confident and connected communities. Participants receive a printed and bound workbook and develop their own Kindness Culture Plan.
Youth Assembly
A Room Full of Kindness
For K–5 · 30 minutes per assembly
Every child adds their handprint to a community tree. A joyful, memorable installation left with the organization to symbolize belonging long after the session ends. Download the overview.
Two age-matched programs: The Kindness Spark (K–2) and The Ripple Effect (Grades 3–5). Movement-based, identity-focused, and built for genuine culture influence.